Am I the only one fed up with members abusive replies?

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 08 Nov 2006, 21:32

Fine say you disagree, even call someone a knob but I'm reading a lot of downright rude and abusive messages lately when someone simply disagrees.

I'm getting fed up with it. What about anyone else? Some examples:

1. Shingster:

"the fact you are aware of this Brad and have not removed Kwaidan from that list proves that this thread isn't about which are the best releases, it's about the titles you want to pimp out and hype up. What a complete waste of everyone's time! "

https://www.bulletsnbabesdvd.com/forums/ ... &start=400

2. Eva. It should be added he is NOT half as bad as he used to be and as such I'm not going to quote particular examples, just a subtle mention.

3. Tigercage:

"I am expected to read every fucking thread you might post in? PM a little too hard? Too much time or plain just dont know how? Again, i never read your pissing post. I avoid them and you, like the plague.

You never mailed anyone, your a fraud and a liar. My username was never Korean Star Fucker, it was Korean Star F*cker! Very different, again i have no problems with it being changed, its the weaselness of your approach."

https://www.bulletsnbabesdvd.com/forums/ ... php?t=2488

None of these replies I feel are justified in response to the original post. They're not just posts directed at me either, others too.

I don't think it's asking much for some common respect and courtesy for your fellow member. Like I said it's not what is said but the way it's said!

tom2681 · Post by **tom2681** » 08 Nov 2006, 22:01

Maybe we've become too sensitive...

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 08 Nov 2006, 23:15

I was thinking that but I don't think so, by all means complain but this vindictive replying by certain members mostly directed at certain members is really getting to much.

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 09 Nov 2006, 00:07

Brad, you should fight back when posters give you shit.

Eg.

Mark: Brad you're a cunt!

Brad: And you're a knob!

See. That's how it's done.

thelostdragon · Post by **thelostdragon** » 09 Nov 2006, 01:39

Agree with Brad.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 09 Nov 2006, 08:07

What Shingster and Eva said was out of order and mean IMO but I have to agree with Mark

Not saying posters giving you shit is justified. It isn't.

Kurgan · Post by **Kurgan** » 09 Nov 2006, 13:47

You're all a set of wankers.

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 09 Nov 2006, 17:02

Is that right Kurgan you lump of poo?!?!?! :twisted:

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 09 Nov 2006, 18:52

grim_tales wrote:What Shingster and Eva said was out of order and mean IMO but I have to agree with Mark

Of course but that doesn't mean members are allowed to deliberately be vindictive at certain other members.

You get a lot of shit thrown your way to Grim, don't you think?

romerojpg · Post by **romerojpg** » 09 Nov 2006, 19:04

Kurgan wrote:You're all a set of wankers.

A Bunch of Wankers

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 09 Nov 2006, 19:04

I agree completely, I also said it doesn't excuse you being treated badly.
Yeah, sometimes I guess, ie being called "downy" etc

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 09 Nov 2006, 19:45

Who's throwing Grim shit?

romerojpg · Post by **romerojpg** » 09 Nov 2006, 20:05

as long as he doesnt catch it

EvaUnit02 · Post by **EvaUnit02** » 09 Nov 2006, 21:54

Well Brad you attacked me and then hid behind ignorance and smilies.

Yi-Long wrote:Who's throwing Grim shit?

I may've done, but I can't remember. "Downy" is one I use a lot in real life but not often online, since it's a kiwi colloquialism and I don't frequent any NZ forums anymore.

BiscLimpkit · Post by **BiscLimpkit** » 09 Nov 2006, 22:41

Pardon my ignorance and stupidity, but what's a downy?

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 09 Nov 2006, 23:21

Maybe someone with down-syndrome?

Anyway, I cant say have had (many) occurrances on this site where I was verbally abused.
I find it more offensive/irritating when people misread my posts, put words in my mouth, or are trying to force their point by (maybe intentionally) misunderstanding my posts and what I am trying to say...

Mostly Brad and Mark have a tendency to do those things. (most recent example is the Ashes of Time Reloaded thread, but also the numerous political and/or religious debates, for instance the times where I said I could UNDERSTAND why Palestines could be driven to a point where they decide their only option left is to commit a suicide attack, which Mark and/or Brad immediately misinterpet in such a way like I'm saying I aprove of them kiling innocent people)

Which is also I think one of the reasons Brad (in this case) gets the abuse by some people. He has a tendency to act all wise and mighty, but is very often proven wrong, either by himself misreading stuff, or just not being informed well enough yet still having an opinion and lecturing others, including moaning about MY MOANING when a movie is announced to be Cut or whatever, which is my basic right as a forum-visitor

For me, Brad has 2 sides. He can absolutely annoy me with some of his posts, and with others he's very kind and helpfull. Kind of like a split personality, moodswings, whatever...

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 09 Nov 2006, 23:58

EvaUnit02 wrote:Well Brad you attacked me and then hid behind ignorance and smilies.

Smilies say a hell of a lot, they say you're only joking and aren't being serious. Without them people don't have a clue but no I've never to most rarely been as insulting to you/others as you can be to people.

I don't what you mean by ignorance so I guess I must be ignorant.

For example you said I had ADHD. I've never gone that far at my remarks to you, and besides very much most of them are replies to your insults.

You also called me a liar, something I'm not. You apologised for that granted but even so.

Yi-Long wrote:Maybe someone with down-syndrome?

That's what I was thinking? Why would you want to insult someone like that? Even if you are joking.

Yi-Long wrote:I find it more offensive/irritating when people misread my posts, put words in my mouth, or are trying to force their point by (maybe intentionally) misunderstanding my posts and what I am trying to say...

I think we've all done this from time to time, even if not always intentionally.

for instance the times where I said I could UNDERSTAND why Palestines could be driven to a point where they decide their only option left is to commit a suicide attack, which Mark and/or Brad immediately misinterpet in such a way like I'm saying I aprove of them kiling innocent people

It must be Mark as I didn't comment on that. Please try and get the right person. Remember to be fair the Internet you can't see body language so people only have your words to go on.

Yi-Long wrote:Which is also I think one of the reasons Brad (in this case) gets the abuse by some people. He has a tendency to act all wise and mighty, but is very often proven wrong, either by himself misreading stuff, or just not being informed well enough yet still having an opinion and lecturing others

Again I'm positive we all do this, maybe me more than others but it's something we all do.

It's a personality trait of mine. I think you moan to much but I doubt you'll stop just because I've asked you.

Yi-Long wrote:For me, Brad has 2 sides. He can absolutely annoy me with some of his posts, and with others he's very kind and helpfull. Kind of like a split personality, moodswings, whatever...

Thank you. Funnily enough I feel the same about you

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 10 Nov 2006, 00:08

The point I'm trying to make has very little with flame wars, disagreements etc... As lets face it we all here have strong personalities and can't resist airing them whenver we get a chance.

I'm commenting on the sheer level of abuse certain members get thrown at (and being honest me, as it's me who brought the subject up) just to basically say you disagree. Grim too like I said.

Most members I've found to always been 100% polite even when they're disagreeing with me but to be called a liar, a cheat, I have ADHD etc . . . isn't really on.

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 10 Nov 2006, 01:31

Calling someone a "downy" is bang out of order. Not saying it was Eva, mind. Just commenting in general. And that goes for "spaz", etc, too.

bradavon · Post by **bradavon** » 10 Nov 2006, 01:34

Yet a member has done it. I don't know who either.

Does anyone else think I have a point? Grim and LD seem to think so.

Godzooki · Post by **Godzooki** » 10 Nov 2006, 10:35

bradavon wrote:Yet a member has done it. I don't know who either.

Does anyone else think I have a point? Grim and LD seem to think so.

Brad, as always full of your own self importance.

Dunno why you included me in your OP, i accused you of being a weasel and you exposed yourself as being that weasel. As i said in that thread the matter is at an end for me and i can just go back to trying to ignore you.

True communication is the response you get! Have you thought about looking at what you post or your approach to these situations?

Have you wondered why posters on so many message boards post such comments about you?

Instead of pointing fingers i think you maybe need to take 5 and have a look at yourself.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 10 Nov 2006, 13:02

Yeah but you called Gil a c**t - an annoying person he may be, always starting flame wars - but is this pot, kettle, black eh Tigger?

Godzooki · Post by **Godzooki** » 10 Nov 2006, 13:26

grim_tales wrote:Yeah but you called Gil a c**t - an annoying person he may be, always starting flame wars - but is this pot, kettle, black eh Tigger?

Missing your point fella. Firstly there is nobody on these forums called Gil, also if there was and it was the same Gil from the old BnB Id still call him a cunt, and if the situation requires it, i would and still do call others the same, online or face to face.

Simple fact is i may not be everyone's cup of tea, but i know when im out of line and have the mental capacity to learn from these situations and further to this know to look at myself before i go looking to play the victim or point fingers.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 10 Nov 2006, 14:06

I know Gil doesnt post here but you still insulted him, isn't it worse when he's not around to say anything?

Godzooki · Post by **Godzooki** » 10 Nov 2006, 14:13

grim_tales wrote:I know Gil doesnt post here but you still insulted him, isn't it worse when he's not around to say anything?

Are you pulling my leg?