Very sad - not a good day

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 08:38

You know in the OT thread I wrote about my granddad, who was in hospital. Sadly he has passed on. He was very sick and very old, but I'm in shock

The last time I saw him was Christmas 2005 for Christmas dinner at my grandparents flat.

I don't know what to say.

I'm going to sit down. This will take some time to sink in. :crybaby:

ReconFive · Post by **ReconFive** » 12 Jun 2006, 08:53

Very sorry to hear that, Grim

My condolences for your loss.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 08:59

Thanks Recon

Unrealnils · Post by **Unrealnils** » 12 Jun 2006, 09:19

RIP Grims grandad!

Thoughts with you family simon

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 09:27

Thanks Nils. I'm going to try and carry on as "normal" as I can.

brooce-leroy · Post by **brooce-leroy** » 12 Jun 2006, 10:11

Sorry to hear about that Grim.

EvaUnit02 · Post by **EvaUnit02** » 12 Jun 2006, 11:29

Sorry to hear about your loss, you have my sympathies.

EvaUnit02 · Post by **EvaUnit02** » 12 Jun 2006, 11:31

W.H. Auden's famous poem.

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He Is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
Let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

He was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 12:15

Thankyou Bruce and Eva, and that poem (as featured in Four Weddings) is very appropriate BTW as its about great loss, not sure WHO its about though.
For some reason I was reminded of the song "The Ballad of Abdul Abulbul Amir", my granddad always used to play that song on record when I was young.

EvaUnit02 · Post by **EvaUnit02** » 12 Jun 2006, 12:32

grim_tales wrote: not sure WHO its about though.

Auden's life partner.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 12:40

Ah.
Can it be used for a relative? I would guess so.

EvaUnit02 · Post by **EvaUnit02** » 12 Jun 2006, 12:49

grim_tales wrote:Ah.
Can it be used for a relative? I would guess so.

Didn't stop thousands of blokes from over the eons from using the Shakespeare sonnet "Shall I compare thee to a summers day" on their birds. That sonnet was written by Shakespeare to a young male squire of his IIRC.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 12:52

lol fair enough

I didnt know that BTW

Kurgan · Post by **Kurgan** » 12 Jun 2006, 13:06

Sorry to hear that. You and your family have my sympathies.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 13:14

Thanks everyone for the kind words

Markgway · Post by **Markgway** » 12 Jun 2006, 13:29

Sorry for your loss, mate.

tom2681 · Post by **tom2681** » 12 Jun 2006, 13:43

Condoléances, Grim.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 14:00

Again, thanks Mark and Tom.

saltysam · Post by **saltysam** » 12 Jun 2006, 15:37

deepest condolences

BiscLimpkit · Post by **BiscLimpkit** » 12 Jun 2006, 16:59

Terribly sorry Grim.

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 17:23

Thanks so much Bisc, for some reason I feel "numb" now inside, it feels really wierd

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 12 Jun 2006, 17:49

Condolences Grim. How's the rest of your family holding up? Did they at least have a chance to say their final goodbyes to him?

Shen · Post by **Shen** » 12 Jun 2006, 17:50

sorry to hear that grim

grim_tales · Post by **grim_tales** » 12 Jun 2006, 18:22

My mum and nan did Yi. I dont think I really understood how sick he was, as I say the last time I saw him was Christmas, he was "okay" (such as it was) then I think

Yi-Long · Post by **Yi-Long** » 12 Jun 2006, 18:45

grim_tales wrote:My mum and nan did Yi. I dont think I really understood how sick he was, as I say the last time I saw him was Christmas, he was "okay" (such as it was) then I think

Aw ic ic. That's always shitty, when you think someone is OK and suddenly it turns out he/she wasnt OK...
A friend of mine had cancer in the brain. I didnt know untill she told me, and she told me she was now doing fine again. Then, a couple of months later I get a call from a mutual friend, telling me the girl is near dying. Shortly after, she died. At times like that you wish you had spent more time with them or whatever...